Thank You Oprah….

As a Muslim I believe in the existence of that which is beyond human perception.  If you don’t know; belief in the Unseen is central to the message of the Qur’ân.  Allah says: “This is the Book; in it is guidance sure, without doubt, to those who fear Allah; who believe in the Unseen, are steadfast in prayer, and spend out of what We have provided for them.” [Sûrah al-Baqarah: 2-3]

This verse establishes for us that belief in the Unseen is the basis for certainty of faith.

What it means is that we are not supposed to limit our belief to those things that we can apprehend with our senses. We are not supposed to allow our observation of the physical world to blind us to our faith in what is beyond it.

Physics teaches us that all of our senses have a vibrational aspect in one way or another.  Our thoughts, feelings and attitudes — all have a vibrational counterpart.

Our outer vibratory state also can correspond to our inner vibratory state but doesn’t always necessarily.  Unfortunately, we may not get to choose what our external senses appear to deliver to us, but we certainly have a choice of whether we are the puppets of what impinges on our senses (the vibrations that seem to influence us) or whether we proactively choose to recognize the dreamlike quality of our external experience and not make it our master.

The typical knee-jerk reactions that keep us bound to space-time are founded on the underlying belief that we’re based in form rather than spirit. The new age maxim that we’re spiritual beings having a material experience (or non-local beings having a local experience) must go beyond being “a great theory” and become rooted in practice, practice, practice, for it to become an actual fact for us.

One barometer of how well we’re achieving that shift in emphasis from matter to spirit is in our words. The language we use with others verbally, as well as electronically (now that email may comprise much of a person’s daily communication) is a great indicator of how we feel about our inner life. Try invoking the inner observer (or record yourself on audio and/or video for a reality check) to see what vibrations you are sending out to the cosmos!

Maybe that’s what Chelsea Handler meant by her comedic skit  regarding Oprah’s message to her via Sandra Bullock on the eve of her new Studio debut?

One of the most basic principles of social life and intimate relationships is the idea of a shared emotional life that springs forth from our relative state of oneness or separation we experience with each other.

Ever since I came home from work I have wondered what it must have been like for my son of 6 weeks to suddenly have a “replacement”.  Now that I am home with my youngest son – I can’t believe what I missed.

The mind and the heart can work together only after the mind surrenders totally to the supremacy of the heart.

After having children it is clear that there are indiscernible threads that connect all beings together.  And we have internal systems that give us the means to detect the ‘flux’ of these connections. But, because the separative powers of our minds and personalities hold so much power to create separation between our beings these ‘fluxes’ or movements toward and away from oneness can be quite strong. And these movements have much to do with our deepest feelings and generate much of our emotional content.

The difference between the material world and the spirit world is only a matter of vibrations, atoms that vibrate so fast where the spirit world cannot be seen.

But systems theory has shown how one part of a system will affect all other parts of the system and intimate and family relationships represent the most powerful systems we participate in. Emotional reactions are an important aspect of awareness; they provide us “feedback” or information about how one part of a system is working and how those “other” parts are affecting us. Emotional reactions are responses to ‘something’ and that something is what’s important yet difficult to see clearly.

To begin with the divine creation of the universe which in fact has always been we need not believe or be controlled by orthodox religions. There is a science within the expression of the consciousness of God that is of everything, and it can be proven.

Although the heart has its strong courageous and persistent willful side our beings are very tender and it is easy to hurt this tenderness. It is easy to wound the vulnerability of our beings. The childlike, open, trusting and living being that feels at one with itself and its environment will feel hurt if knifes of any kind cleaves into this ‘wonderment.’ That such knifes exist is reality.

The ego itself carries its own knife of selfishness and separation. Hurt can be experienced many different ways and yet a host of new age philosophies mirror an interesting unconscious phenomenon in human behavior, the tendency to judge and try to diminish the hurt beings feel.

 Religion without science is blind-science without religion is lame.

Unfortunately people often drown inside the intensity of their emotions (because emotions as compared to feelings bring in past content and context which distorts the meaning of what is happening in the present) and loose clarity to what triggered the reaction in the first place.

What is not seen is that we have lost touch with love and oneness. The heart dances to the beat of “we” where as the mind is concerned obsessively with “I.” The obsession with the supremacy of the ego “I” casts its long shadow even over family systems theory which still diagnoses individual mental conditions over diagnosis of overall family pathology.

The very foundation of our emotional and social intelligence is seen in our beings ability to maintain our “connection” with those we care about. Yet the reality of marriage and life in general is separation not oneness, and most of our emotional life reflects this.

Small children live for individual attention and immediate gratification: “Give me,” “I want,” “It’s mine.” But we’re not little kids anymore, and “it’s all for me” is a pretty narrow place from which to participate in the world.

So, when you make the shift from “me” to “we,” as in “What’s in it for us?,” other people become as important to you as you. His frustration counts as much as yours, so you listen more carefully and offer better help. Her needs make a difference in your life, so you pay more attention and do a better job.

When you make the shift from “me” to “we,” other people feel taken care of, appreciated and understood. They feel good, and you feel better, too.

However, when the overall system is sick individual health will not exist and efforts to heal the individual will not effect much movement if the overall system is not equally addressed.

Thank You Oprah for All of your efforts and All that you have done.

Live and Learn. We All Do.

Thanks for reading. Please pass this on to someone who means something to you.

About julia29

Hi. My name is Julia El-Haj. I am a Hall of Fame Athlete, an MBA, Professional Certified Marketer, Certified Youth Fitness Trainer, a Specialist in Sports Nutrition and a licensed Real Estate agent. I gave up my "seat at the table" to be home with my 3 children because that's where I was needed most. I blog about everything with Wellness in mind.
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