I was shopping in Target the other day and I saw a man with this D.A.D.D. shirt on.
Dads Against Daughters Dating.
This was declared “rule” in my house even before I got pregnant – so I’m definitely buying a T-shirt for my husband. 🙂
This hasn’t been the first time that I have seen the shirt recently but to be honest as a mom I was happy that there seems to be a new “movement” of men who want to take action in accepting their role and responsibility of raising their daughters. It’s not easy – especially today.
I believe with all my heart that the world would change if more men understood the power of this relationship. After becoming a mother I can “see” that fathers have an opportunity to give their children something that no one else can.
I realize the phrase power might stir up less-than-desirable reactions from some. Power is a word that can be used for good or evil. But just because some have and will abuse the reality behind the word, there’s no need to write it off.
Every area of an adult woman’s life is affected by the relationship she had, and continues to have, with her father. Past wounds can cause pain in the present. Many women do not understand what they missed or what they suffered. And, many fathers do not understand what they neglected or the harm they inflicted.
And, Nothing—no amount of money or gifts—can replace the emotional and spiritual connection a father must have with his daughter (or son…to be fair). God can help us heal, forgive, and grow beyond past mistakes. But still, a woman has a place in her heart for her father. It may be wounded, wanting, or whole, but it is real, and it impacts her life today.
It’s normal to need a father. Both male and female need a dad. It’s how God wired us. And, every human being wants to feel the presence of a loving father. It’s natural to long for this close connection. We hunger for a father’s support, understanding, and comfort. God made us with this hunger for a father—it’s important.
The need to feel the presence and love of a father is foundational. A son needs the emotional and spiritual touch of his father’s life. The men’s movement taught us how to build and value an emotional bridge between father and son. And experience has taught us how the absence of this bridge leaves a man deeply wounded. A man, without this connection to his father, has an emptiness in his soul that longs to be filled. This hunger impacts every area of a man’s life. Less is said about daughters, but women carry a similar wound.
The truth is that every human soul—both female and male—has space that needs to be filled through a deep relationship with a father. This is also true of the relationship with a mother, of course, but it is not our primary focus here.
The need for a father cannot be denied.
God’s Word clearly indicates that men — fathers — bring power to the parenting relationship. The woman brings life; the father brings strength. There will be days when a mother brings strength to things and there will be days when a man brings life. But the abiding pattern, the divine design, gives power to the father.
The question, as always, is, “How will the power be used?”
In the depths of her soul, a daughter truly needs her father.
Live and Learn. We all do.
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