I like most women with three children under the age of 5 believe that leaving a young woman home alone with my “brood” would be enough to send them running to the hills; thinking 100 times before venturing into a relationship where having children was a possible outcome.
There is no doubt about it that being a mother is hard work. I am pretty sure we got that point across.
But no matter what, it’s just one of those things that no matter what people tell you on what you should expect you just can’t really wrap your head around it. Or at least I couldn’t.
Realizing that my husband and I were both getting older and that our time for having young children in the house is coming to an end we had to start thinking about taking precautions and which birth control would be best.
Again, I found this coincidental considering that birth control is right at the center of the political debates. Personally, I don’t have time for politics. I have children to raise and my only interest is in making the best decision for me and my family.
That being said, my Aha! moment came to me when I realized that in order to do my job as a mom I would need my health and my strength. Every single birth control massively marketed in today’s “marketplace” has horrendous side effects for women; in addition, those numbers increase when compounded with lifestyle habits, environmental and/or biological conditions. After three pregnancies, I learned a thing or two about my body and my body has taken on a whole new meaning.
My husband being the Man that he is; was 100%, completely and utterly against the idea of the new vasectomy treatment. He like most men in my “inner circle” told me that I would be taking away his manhood and that I didn’t have the right to do that. This sparked many discussions between us on a whole bunch of issues. Some of which include: How God created Man and how he created Woman. How do we know the side effects? When will we know them if we can recognize them? What if something happened to his family and he needed to create a new one? Yes. Exhausting.
Hmm. Hmm. He just wasn’t having it.
So we had to explore other options. I’ll admit it wasn’t that difficult for us to get pregnant – in fact, like many couples our third child wasn’t calculated into our budget. But, I did secretly long for another baby. And, so it happened – I had my third child.
But, the tremendous pressure my husband felt to give them the quality lifestyle he felt they deserved and he felt the “WE” deserved had a limit and 3 was it.
“Get the IUD as soon as you deliver the baby”, he told me.
“What?”, I said.
Now, this wasn’t the first time that I heard about this but the reality that I had completed the childbearing age just shocked me and being forced to have the conversation was a reality I just didn’t want to face.
However, you can’t avoid reality for too long. In our conversations, I remembered that my mom told me that she explored this option when she was younger. Both my sister-in-laws and a handful of friends also used it and raved about it. In fact, what I learned doing my own research was that this is the safest, most effective, win-win solution for both parties involved. It’s also the birth control used most WORLDWIDE.
I often find this funny and annoying, and maddening; that sometimes the rest of the world is aware of certain facts that are kept hidden from the “American” consumer. And, let’s face it in today’s world we are all consumers.
From my personal experience I can tell you the whole process took no more than 5 minutes and I walked out of the doctor as if nothing happened. I personally had no issues (knock on wood); regarding recovery. I know from what people have told me that both methods of tying your tubes and snipping… well you know… are painful and need some recovery time. And, both methods put an end to childbearing privileges. The lawsuits now being filed on feminine hormonal birth control should speak for themselves.
I personally believe, in the end, that this is a privilege that only God should take away from you. Either way. And, no matter what your current view on having children is.
To me it seems as if this decision is one to go down in the record books as being win-win for all. Something I find increasingly difficult to do as my family gets older and more individualized.
No matter what age you are I think the IUD is the safest, long-term, birth control method for young women looking to preserve their health for their later years. And, if there comes a time where you need to change your mind it’s easily reversible.
If your still not sure on a birth control method – I’ll give you my three children for an hour and then we can talk 🙂
Live and Learn. We all do.
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